Week one of our “Sex Series” was nothing short of epic! Our first week was a talk on Purity, which might be better described as the journey from the battlefield to the bedroom! For those who dare, this is exactly what feels like as we contend for God’s call on our lives as Christ-followers. However, my prayer is that through this series God would ignite a fire of an entire generation to recapture the trophy of purity!
Because of the request of so many I will post some of my notes below:
Why Wait?
1. Because we trust God ( 1Thess. 4:3-5, 7)
I think too many times we (especially single people) read this verse and automatically interpret it to mean that God is a cosmic kill joy...however, if you look closer what you’ll really discover is God’s blueprint for the journey!
Proverbs 5:18 - "May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth."
Remember: God will never ask us to give up the greater for the lesser!
Not waiting is risky business…..
STD’s, pregnancy, hurting people, the loss of God’s blessing and future pain, are all things we risk when purity is devalued.
In all my years in ministry and counseling singles and married couple, I have yet to run across anybody who says that they are better off because….
…they have an STD
…because of divorce
…because they had an unwanted pregnancy
…because they gave themselves away emotionally and physically
…Because of their addiction to porn
So what are the benefits? In my journey with my bride, these were what we came up with in terms of the benefits of waiting:
It keeps God first
It cultivates the discipline of self-control
It builds a foundation of trust
It empowers you to pass on a legacy to your children
Why wait? Because we trust God (Proverbs 3:5-6)!
2. Because we respect ourselves (1 Co. 6:18-20)
In light of Christ…my body belongs to God.
Hint: If you treat yourself like you’re worthless, you are inviting other people to do the same.
If you carry yourself like you’re a prince or princess, others will relate to you like one!
Things to avoid:
Runway modeling – dress modestly
Strip Poker – research shows that it’s easier to remain sexually pure when you clothes are on than when you're butt naked!
Avoid playing house – You are only training yourself for divorce because when it doesn’t work out…you take you ball and go home. If you're not married, don't live like it!
Technical virginity – The reason oral sex is called oral sex is because it’s sex! Mutual masturbation is sex!
Tonsil Hockey – The truth is this, will only fuel your fire!
Three life-giving themes to live by:
1. no rang…no thang!
2. My bod is for God!
3. Can’t touch this! (make this your athem!)
Romans 6:13:
"Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness."
3. Because of honor (Hebrews 13:4)
You can start being faithful to your future spouse today!
Remember: The best way to steward tomorrow is by being faithful today.
State your standards up front
Become a student of godly relationships
Find a couple to mentor you
Begin praying for your future spouse daily
Ask the right questions
What can I do about my singleness? (wrong question)
What can I do with my singleness? (better question)
Does my current relationship hinder me from serving God as a single person?
What is my motivation in relationship-pleasing myself, or serving others?
Do I give myself away physically or emotionally in ways that I regret?
Our journey continues this Sunday with week two of our “Sex Files” Series!
